My husband and I both work, and we have been having some “discussions” regarding the level to which my husband must contribute to household expenses. (Don’t distress, we’re getting marriage counseling.) What are my rights according to Jewish law? Can he opt out of supporting me just considering I have a job?

Thank you for your question. that issue is discussed in the Shulchan Aruch (Even HaEzer 69:4). A husband must supply for his wife’s and family’s needs, and, in return for doing that, he is entitled to keep her salary. However, a woman can opt out and say, “I prefer my salary and will supply my own needs.” Yet, although the husband cannot say, “You keep your salary and I won’t support you,” he can tell her, “Use your salary towards your expenses, and, whether it isn’t

adequate, I will supply you with whatever additional is essential.”

Rabbi Aaron Tendler

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